Understanding reality and using that to understand others

To question what reality is, we really should understand the infinite nature of it.
The following ideas are not all new, but may help us to understand ourselves and others better.


It is important to understand there is a perception of reality. Each person has their own view of the world. For most, consciously, this is culminate of inputs their thoughts and outputs. Of course, the interactions are far more complicated than that. We can imagine there to be a continued barrage of assaults on a steady stream of reality from new thoughts, inputs and outputs.
We can think of our thoughts as driving the action center. The action center is what projects my outputs to other's inputs.

What about the subconscious?

Subconscious is simply the thoughts your formed thoughts doesn't pay attention to. Our subconscious also contains memories, which can be drawn upon to influence our thoughts.

So we have our model of reality;

  • Inputs.
  • Outputs.
  • Thoughts > action center.
  • Subconscious.

How is the action center different to our thoughts?

The action center is the physical manifestation of our thoughts? We may have many thoughts, which our action center decides to enact, but in reality may not project exactly the same image of what our thoughts desired.

This happens all the time. Something as simple as wishing to score a triple 20 in darts, but scoring 18. It doesn't stop there as now, we have an infinite set of possible inputs to feed our thoughts.  We shan't enumerate them, but it could be a negative experience, a positive experience in not scoring a zero etc.
In asking, what is reality, the answer is not simple. Many things must be experienced, placed into our action center to become part of our subconscious. For example, there aren't too many people who would run in front of a bus if they have ever hit a heavy object. We wouldn't need to have been hit by a bus to know it probably isn't a good thing to do. Even if we had never seen somebody get hit by a bus. A few may have been hit by a bus and survived, but most will be told at some point of the risks.

The importance of choice and objectivity

Many will claim that they are "well-grounded", that their view of reality is fairly accurate because they are paying attention to what is going on around them. In reality, they are choosing what they wish to submit themselves to. Remember, this is often their subconscious affecting their thoughts. It could be habits, convenience, pleasure, fears. Please bear in mind, that choice can majorly be from external inputs and indeed these inputs may never become part of our consciousness.

Physical reality

Of course, physical reality is huge. It drives us. Hunger, thirst, desire, protection, preservation, comfort, growth all affect our concepts of reality. 

Substitution in reality

We have already established there to be multiple channels occurring, streaming into and out of our action center, much of it is subconscious. We established there to be choice in what to choose to experience and be subject to.
It stands to reason, that if for example we choose a job and become part of that system we may form a different reality to a child or retiree. If we watch certain news or read certain books, our opinions and thus reality will be different to somebody who watches different news or doesn't read books but newspapers.
"Please remember, we choose what becomes our reality."

Qualified reality - certainty

Unless we have strong certainty and evidence, we shouldn't pay too much attention to our reality? Of course not. Few of us have experienced nearly dying of thirst, yet drink water many times a day.
We shouldn't need to bring out spreadsheets to provide evidence to our child who isn't drinking enough water.
Yet, to acquiesce to presumed authority when it is potentially wrong is damaging to our perception of reality and what we will experience within our physical reality.
Many won't have the skills to interpret truth because mostly, an element of mathematics is required? Logic and reasoning are powerful alternatives to those less skilled in data and analysis.
We may then be able to decide upon the right source of the water we drink.
The one recommendation is to treat most things with cycnism until it has been verified. Sometimes this verification can happen via means of an authority qualified in an area, but more frequently these authorities may not have very much in the way of certainty at all.

Your reality decides what to believe but try to avoid repeating things you haven't applied sense to.

The justification element

Reality becomes aligned by choosing to justify certain actions. For example, the physical needs justify our behaviour. Having money allows us to survive, for example, but justifies many other actions which may or may not be necessary at all.
  • I haven't been running so must go on a run.
  • I had a busy week so I need to have a drink.
  • I had a busy week so I would like to read a book.
  • I have been told to pay into my pension but haven't worked out whether my pension is valid.
  • It is time to try to understand other's perspectives.
  • I would like to be alone.
  • It would be great to be around good company.
  • I haven't spoken to my family in a long time so should give them a call.
  • It is time to spend some quality time with my family.
  • I would like to learn a new skill.

Practically thinking, we are continually forsaking our own reality for other's realities - a boss in our job when our boiler needs repairing, working late when a deadline is looming.

Acceptance, understanding and reality

Tolerance is a major part of this but indeed it is underpinned by understanding and education - awareness. If we choose not to continually self-educate, seek truth through analysis and interpretation, question, we will never have acceptance and understanding of others. It will be more convenient to simply follow mainstream opinion, make the right sounds at the right beat.

So how do we accept others who choose not to enlighten themselves?

First of all, nobody should think of themselves as complete, having all the answers. By considering this model, we can immediately work out the kinds of things we want and need in our lives, but more importantly we can start to make conscious actions towards what we want to happen.

Certainly, we can't just simply expect people to go along with our thoughts but if they completely reject it, or are completely ensnared in their own reality then it is better to free yourself. Remember, often, everybody will reach a higher state of reality but by then it is too late. 

Beyond reality

This is perhaps the most scariest place to be, we should consider whether being here is a good place to be? If we substitute the many things that makes up conventional reality, will it end well? The Hegelian Spirit is what drives society forwards and to avoid that is swimming upstream it would seem? Changing your reality is starting to change others and this is what can therefore change that spirit.

So we shouldn't be fearful of moving beyond our current reality alone, as hopefully others will be on similar paths.

This is my son, immediately having questioned my reality, we can start to imagine others. Even his snotty nose isn't an issue :) 

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